Talk It Out

When you find out that you're moving, a million thoughts may race through your head. The next place those thoughts should go is simple: out of your mouth! If you're afraid that you won't make new friends, nervous about riding the bus with 30 new kids, or upset because you have to give up your position as captain of the soccer team, don't keep it to yourself. Whatever you're feeling, talk to your mom or dad about it. They'll probably have some good ideas and suggestions.

If you're moving because your parents are getting divorced or because someone your family might be under a lot of stress. It's tough to see a parent who's upset, so you might think the best thing would be to keep your feelings to yourself. But the truth is that it's always better to, even if your parent seems to have a lot of his or her own worries. Your parent will be glad you shared your feelings — and so will you.

Check Things Out

Finding out about the new place you'll be living can make you feel better for a couple of reasons. First, you'll feel less nervous when you know what to expect, and second, you may start getting a little excited about the new place you're headed to. If you are going to be moving to a town or city nearby, ask a parent to drive you around so you can check things out.

The first thing you'll want to do is see your new house or apartment. If the house or apartment is new, or if nobody is living there, your parent may be able to show you around. This will give you a chance to think about how you want your room to look. And if you run into any kids who live on the street or in the apartment building and you feel like it, say hi to them and introduce yourself. Maybe they'll be future friends.

Your new school is another important stop on this tour. Maybe your mom or dad can arrange a visit, so you'll know what it looks like inside. You may even be able to ask a teacher or school aide to give you a tour, so you'll be able to find your way around the school on your first day. If you're into band, sports, or other clubs, ask which activities are offered at your new school — and what to do if you want to join.

If you're moving far away to another part of the country, or even a different part of the world, you'll need to check things out in a different way. You can do an Internet search and find out about your new town. You also can visit your library and check for books on that city or state.